F-E-A-R has two meanings:
‘Forget Everything And Run’
‘Face Everything And Rise.’
The choice is yours.”
The desire to be powerful—to overcome fear—is embedded deep in the human soul. Made in our Creator’s image, we are gifted with power—the capacity to responsibly manage the earth and to creatively resolve personal issues.
Personal empowerment is like a flame. The embers of its fire must be fanned and kept ablaze. Like a seed, it must be nurtured if we would taste its satisfying fruit.
3 Turbo-Charging Actions That Empower
1. Tweak – “improve by making fine adjustments”
Personal empowerment rests on health, work-life balance and relationships. Without proper attention to these, our power to deal effectively with situations and people is compromised. The capacity to make transforming choices is not achieved by overhauling but by tweaking.
Small steps made consistently form new habits,
and new habits change old outcomes.
Instead of a crash diet to improve health, replace just one bad eating habit. A healthy lifestyle is exactly that, a style of living that is cultivated over time.
Similarly, just one “fine adjustment” to priorities at work (or at home) can dispel unnecessary stress.
Something as simple as smiling, listening attentively, or saying “thank you” can transform relationships.
2. Retool – “adapt or alter to make more useful or suitable”
The measure of personal empowerment is affected by character and personality.
Character is your personal brand. It is who you are and what you stand for defined by your values.
Personality is how you market yourself. It is how you represent yourself as you interact with others, the image you create by which you are identified.
When failure erodes self-confidence,
step back, identify the defect, and retool.
A flaw or a quirk can sabotage your success, undermine your resolve, jeopardize your command of situations and tarnish your relationships. Continual failure erodes self-confidence.
3. Re-calibrate – “adjust points of reference to take external factors into account”
To maintain optimum power, goals, perspective and attitude must be re-evaluated regularly and re-calibrated as necessary. The standard by which progress is measured and the points of reference by which our course is charted must come under the scrutiny.
- Does my standard truly reflect who I am becoming?
- Do my points of reference keep me on track?
Circumstances are designed to produce two outcomes.
(1) Experience which makes us wiser and stronger. Wiser—we don’t keep making the same mistakes because we learn from them. Stronger because we’ve been there, done that, so let’s move on to the next level.
(2) Clarity to see things as they really are. With distractions removed, we can see where we are heading and make the necessary adjustments to get there.
Jamaican reggae icon Jimmy Cliff says it well.
“I can see clearly now the rain is gone.
I can see all obstacles in my way.
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind.
It’s gonna be a bright , bright sunshiny day.”
Under the pressures of work and of personal responsibilities we easily lose sight of the bigger picture. At work, our engaging tasks demand intense focus while at home, children and spouse demand consuming attention.
Exhausted and frustrated, we blame our family for our less-than-satisfactory performance at work, and we blame our job for the hopelessly dysfunctional performance at home.
The discontent brewing within will destroy us if we don’t take external factors into account, and make some necessary adjustments in perspective. Empowerment comes with a broad, positive perspective of work and home.
“Oh, yes I can make it now the pain is gone.
All of the bad feelings have disappeared.
Here is that rainbow I’ve been praying for.
It’s gonna be a bright, bright sunshiny day.”
Sometimes when we’re going through hell, the ONLY thing we can control is our attitude—the way we think or feel about the situation.
When conditions are dark and overwhelming is not the time to think about goals. In that state, positive perspective is overshadowed by the encroaching storm. And I can tell you, there will be times when the storm is a Category 5 Hurricane.
Our experience of Hurricane Gilbert in 1988, left us with a sober regard for one the most devastating forces of nature. There is absolutely nothing you can do but wait it out and pray!
We have since gone through personal situations that rank Category 5. It has taken several years to recover from one such devastation. (I still have mental, emotional and spiritual scars from it!)
You might be saying at this point, “Wow. I’m not so sure I can do all that personal empowerment stuff. If only there was an app.”
Well, there’s something even simpler and better than an app, and it’s already embedded in you.
That’s right…simpler and better than an app…Your tongue!
The simplest, quickest and most effective way to tweak, retool and re-calibrate your life into turbocharge mode is to
(1) Speak positively about yourself as you acknowledge your strengths and weakness (which will in time also transform into strengths). Research shows that a person’s self-image is affected by the words used to talk about themselves.
(2) Use active words, especially about the future. Replace “I’m gonna try my best…” with “I will complete this task and I will do my best!”
(3) Most importantly, define your own space and your own identity with your own power words.
Failing in this, you relinquish personal power to others. They will clip your wings and confine you to a box, their box.
I urge you, don’t scratch in the dirt with the chickens. You were born to rise above the ordinary. Soar in the skies with the eagles. No limits!